Hmm.. I had the strangest dream last night but it also feel kinda real. Maybe it is a play of my subconscious mind after reading some NASA article about end of the world. I can only remember my dream in fragments but the few things that clearly stayed in my head is
1) 7 countries/lands will disappear and 7 new ones will appear when 'end of the world' happens.
2) I asked God in my dream which country and HE said that HE has already warn the countries by inflicting the country with disaster!
I woke up thinking New Zealand has been inflicted with quake quite a bit! And the crumble of the Cathedral in Christchurch... was that a sign? Especially when the name of the place is called 'ChristChurch'. Does that mean 'Christ's Church' is no longer in NZ?
Oh well, I remember talking to a friend and she said NZ has become quite secular. So my prayer for NZ is maybe to repent and pray.
Sunday, 8 July 2012
Wednesday, 6 June 2012
Fairness
I cannot understand the Law of this world. When he takes out a Non-Removal Order, I do not need to be consulted. It was a decision reducing me to choose between my child or my family. He can be granted it because of his fear. But when I want to go back home, his views need to be heard. Why wasnt my views heard when he took out the Non-Removal Order? It is such a stupid Law. Ridiculous. Completely one-sided. It is OK to imprison someone but it is NOT OK for someone to seek a better life. It is OK to make me choose between my child or my parents but it is NOT OK for him to choose.
Wednesday, 23 May 2012
Good friends are hard to find
Sometime back, I saw a blog about I Wish I had a Best friend. This blogger mentioned how when she feels that she has met her sister/soul mate, it turns out that they only want her to do babysitting jobs, running errands, etc. Lately, this is how I feel about the friendships I have developed.
When I moved to another suburb, friends from the old suburb no longer keep in contact on the basis that I am too far away. When I thought I have met some new friends, it feels like the friendship must be based on their terms. To a certain extent, I kind of feel like an Ah Mah to them. I am OK and good to be used for reliable stuff but being counted out for social stuff. Sometimes I cant help thinking is it because I am a single mother so I dont fall in the league for social gatherings but I am in the league to be counted on to babysit and doing responsible stuff.
But vice versa, if I ask for help for my situation, I get shoved aside because they are all too busy with their life to feel how I feel.
Guess note to self is to find a genuine friendship rather than one that is one-sided. I also cannot help it but find that people are so self-centered and critical nowadays. Just when I also thought I meet someone I can relate to, I find the person to be so full of their own ways and cannot accept other people for who they are.
As for now, I know the friendship between my son and I are genuine so he is everything to me and perfect to me. So I do not feel guilty for putting my son first above anything and to defend my son over criticism and unfair treatment.
When I moved to another suburb, friends from the old suburb no longer keep in contact on the basis that I am too far away. When I thought I have met some new friends, it feels like the friendship must be based on their terms. To a certain extent, I kind of feel like an Ah Mah to them. I am OK and good to be used for reliable stuff but being counted out for social stuff. Sometimes I cant help thinking is it because I am a single mother so I dont fall in the league for social gatherings but I am in the league to be counted on to babysit and doing responsible stuff.
But vice versa, if I ask for help for my situation, I get shoved aside because they are all too busy with their life to feel how I feel.
Guess note to self is to find a genuine friendship rather than one that is one-sided. I also cannot help it but find that people are so self-centered and critical nowadays. Just when I also thought I meet someone I can relate to, I find the person to be so full of their own ways and cannot accept other people for who they are.
As for now, I know the friendship between my son and I are genuine so he is everything to me and perfect to me. So I do not feel guilty for putting my son first above anything and to defend my son over criticism and unfair treatment.
Wednesday, 9 May 2012
Punishment Society
Yesterday I saw in my newsfeed a video of a woman beating her baby with a pillow. I will not repost the video here for I believe enough damage has been done by the social networking. So I read and see that how judgmental we all are. We just want to crucify her without even knowing the situation. OK, now the story is out. She was raped, gave birth to this baby and now looks like she is abusing the baby.
I was looking at the video and as a mother, it was heart wrenching to see the baby being beaten up. But upon looking at the video with another perspective, I see that she was beating the baby with a pillow, not something hard or sharp. With my mind clear of judgement, to me, it looks like the woman herself is equally the victim. It looks like she loves the baby as much as she hates the baby. The baby reminds her of a horrid incident but she also loves the baby. The baby actually looks a healthy size and no significant bruises are seen on the baby.
Today, I saw comments saying that the 18 months jail sentence is inadequate for her behaviour. Again, it really hurts me to see how quick we are to cast judgement, to crucify someone we deem to be unfit or bad based on our own experience and yardstick. But is the 18 months jail sentence going to help anyone? Probably results in more anger and hurt in this woman and result in 3 children living without their mother for 18 months.
We live in a 'punishment' to justify the means society. Is it really going to work? What happens after 18 months, after her release? She might even have more anger towards this baby because she will think it is the baby that put her behind bars, this baby that resulted in her being torn away from her own kids for 18 months. Can we not be a bit more compassionate and understand that not everyone have a breezy life and this woman is also a victim herself.
Wouldnt it be better to sentence her to 18 months of 24/7 supervised care by a nurse or a trainer professional and let her heal/come to terms that this baby is already in this world and is part of her. Give her guidance and let her decide whether she can face the baby and if she cant, prepare and coach her to give the baby up for adoption. Let everyone heal including the baby. But putting her behind bars do not do anything good for anyone but create bigger resentment and anger.
Looking at the video, I do wonder if she had has the choice of abortion, would it turn out better for her and that baby? Killing a baby in the womb vs hurting a baby which could lead to long term emotional, psychological and physical effect...
We should really not be so quick to cast our first condemnation on people. There is always a circumstances or a history.
I was looking at the video and as a mother, it was heart wrenching to see the baby being beaten up. But upon looking at the video with another perspective, I see that she was beating the baby with a pillow, not something hard or sharp. With my mind clear of judgement, to me, it looks like the woman herself is equally the victim. It looks like she loves the baby as much as she hates the baby. The baby reminds her of a horrid incident but she also loves the baby. The baby actually looks a healthy size and no significant bruises are seen on the baby.
Today, I saw comments saying that the 18 months jail sentence is inadequate for her behaviour. Again, it really hurts me to see how quick we are to cast judgement, to crucify someone we deem to be unfit or bad based on our own experience and yardstick. But is the 18 months jail sentence going to help anyone? Probably results in more anger and hurt in this woman and result in 3 children living without their mother for 18 months.
We live in a 'punishment' to justify the means society. Is it really going to work? What happens after 18 months, after her release? She might even have more anger towards this baby because she will think it is the baby that put her behind bars, this baby that resulted in her being torn away from her own kids for 18 months. Can we not be a bit more compassionate and understand that not everyone have a breezy life and this woman is also a victim herself.
Wouldnt it be better to sentence her to 18 months of 24/7 supervised care by a nurse or a trainer professional and let her heal/come to terms that this baby is already in this world and is part of her. Give her guidance and let her decide whether she can face the baby and if she cant, prepare and coach her to give the baby up for adoption. Let everyone heal including the baby. But putting her behind bars do not do anything good for anyone but create bigger resentment and anger.
Looking at the video, I do wonder if she had has the choice of abortion, would it turn out better for her and that baby? Killing a baby in the womb vs hurting a baby which could lead to long term emotional, psychological and physical effect...
We should really not be so quick to cast our first condemnation on people. There is always a circumstances or a history.
Friday, 4 May 2012
Hurt
I struggle to find a Title for my post. I am feeling a mixture of emotion. When I handed my son over yesterday, he was still OK but received a call last night, 3 hours after I handed my son over to say that my son is sick. First it was surprise to know that in 3 hours, he fell sick and then it was anger because I cant be there to hold my sick child. With my anger and all emotions still seething, I got a call from a friend. Another single mother whose child didnt want to go to dad's for the weekend but she has already made plans so was asked to babysit.
That stirred up even more anger in me. Can the law makers, psychologist see what they are doing to our kids by FORCING them to live out of a knapsack? I see the emphasis is EQUAL time with both parents are considered GOOD for the child's psychology. Please have some basis on that. As far as I can see, EQUAL time makes the child feels unwanted, unloved. It's quality time that matters, not Equal time. A child is not a possession that can be split equally.
Since I open up, I have heard so many children saying the same thing - DREAD the sleepover at dad's. The older ones feel that it restricts their activities with their friends. They cant do things or they feel embarrassed when they have to tell their friends that they cant do something this weekend because they are over at dad's. The younger ones like stability. They want someone to cuddle them to sleep and dad/men are usually not the type to cuddle a child to sleep. Nevertheless of the reasons, this is not working. The one that is suffering are the children.
Dear lawmakers, psychologist and those people who judges based on their perception, have you seen a child cry and hide under a bed because the weekend is coming? Have you seen a child asking you to hide them because the weekend is coming? Have you seen a child's telling white lies to see whether you love them and will save them? Have you seen a child getting all anxious when they see you pack their bags? Have you seen a child filled with so much anger that they hate both the parents and it is all the doing of the law and society?
I have heard some of these horror stories, witness some of these myself and experienced some of this myself. Do you know how painful it is for us? I feel so angry and hurt and betrayed that I am no longer going to be politically correct. To those of you who has resulted in my child in this fate and to those who judged me based on your own perception, I know with all my heart the same will happen to your children and marriage. Judge your fellow brethen and you will also be judged or experience the pain.
That stirred up even more anger in me. Can the law makers, psychologist see what they are doing to our kids by FORCING them to live out of a knapsack? I see the emphasis is EQUAL time with both parents are considered GOOD for the child's psychology. Please have some basis on that. As far as I can see, EQUAL time makes the child feels unwanted, unloved. It's quality time that matters, not Equal time. A child is not a possession that can be split equally.
Since I open up, I have heard so many children saying the same thing - DREAD the sleepover at dad's. The older ones feel that it restricts their activities with their friends. They cant do things or they feel embarrassed when they have to tell their friends that they cant do something this weekend because they are over at dad's. The younger ones like stability. They want someone to cuddle them to sleep and dad/men are usually not the type to cuddle a child to sleep. Nevertheless of the reasons, this is not working. The one that is suffering are the children.
Dear lawmakers, psychologist and those people who judges based on their perception, have you seen a child cry and hide under a bed because the weekend is coming? Have you seen a child asking you to hide them because the weekend is coming? Have you seen a child's telling white lies to see whether you love them and will save them? Have you seen a child getting all anxious when they see you pack their bags? Have you seen a child filled with so much anger that they hate both the parents and it is all the doing of the law and society?
I have heard some of these horror stories, witness some of these myself and experienced some of this myself. Do you know how painful it is for us? I feel so angry and hurt and betrayed that I am no longer going to be politically correct. To those of you who has resulted in my child in this fate and to those who judged me based on your own perception, I know with all my heart the same will happen to your children and marriage. Judge your fellow brethen and you will also be judged or experience the pain.
Joyous Reunion
Nayati returned home on Thursday. Prayers answered, the boy unharmed. Parents elated and well wishers are happy and relieved. Praises rang out to the police and people involved in returning Nayati to his parents. Kidnappers got their money but still on the loose... However, I have to add an extra 'praise' (cant find the right word) to the kidnappers for not harming the boy. At least there is a little humanity in them.
Happy ending makes everyone happy. Will I get my happy ending with my son?
Happy ending makes everyone happy. Will I get my happy ending with my son?
Friday, 27 April 2012
Nayati Moodliar
I was in tears when I hear the father's plea to the kidnappers.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFENLftMnLU
His photos is all over the news and every social media so it is widespread. My comments today is to the kidnappers. What are your intentions?
1) If it is money, please contact the parents and get your fair share but leave a young boy out of this.
2) If it is for some sort of personal vendetta, please dont be as low as this to hurt a young boy. Go face to face with the parents to sort the personal vendetta.
3) If it was a mistaken identity, then remember 1-1 = 0. Cut short your mistake and leave the boy somewhere perhaps in the shopping mall like Mid Valley or KLCC where there is so many people and the boy can make his own way back. Remember, 1-1=0 and the parents said that they will not press charges.
4) If you are scared because it is now a widespread news, then face up to it. You know, when you face up to it, you will find that your sentence will be less and people will be more forgiving.
5) If you have done the unthinkable (which I cannot even write it out because it is heart wrenching), please dont just run away. Everyone needs closure including you. Do the right thing for your soul.
Please remember, you are also someone child. Would you like your parents to worry about you this way? And one day, you will also be a parent. Do you want to be in this position because you have make a mistake and karma bites back?
Please whatever are your intentions, sort it out but leave the child out of this.
Sending my strength to you kidnappers to do the right thing and sending my strength to Nayati to stay strong...
Note to kidnappers: If you are scared, or dont want to be detected, remember our first and foremost interest is Nayati. Feel free to go to an internet cafe and write a comment on this blog. You will not and cant be traced. I will then contact his parents myself. Remember, I am only interested to help this boy return to his parents, and not you.
Saturday, 21 April 2012
Racism
I saw this article in the news today. Foreign Nurses Report Racism in NZ - http://nz.news.yahoo.com/a/-/mp/13489125/foreign-nurses-report-racism-in-nz/
I thrash the system in NZ quite often in my blog and probably everyone will think I am going to go on about racism in NZ. :) Actually, quite the opposite. My comments are racism occur everywhere in the world. Chinese and Indian in Malaysia also complain about racism. Honestly, I dont think it can be avoided anyway in the world. I mean yes, our Asian skin colour does seem to be a bit of a disadvantage in a western country but then that is what we need to deal with if we choose to migrate and live in a western country. I dont think its really worth fighting and lamenting over it. If you are not happy, then go back to your home country.
Like right now, I am not happy in NZ and praying and wishing the law in NZ will allow my son and I to return to Malaysia. I trash the law but I will not use racism as a reason of unhappiness. Racism is not part of the law, it is just how we feel about ourselves and look at other people's perception on ourself.
I grew up hating my Asian looks, always worshiping my western counterparts. But life changes, I grew up and now, I am proud of my Asian hair, eyes, nose, body and everything else. I will not swap anything of mine to look more western. Once I come to term with myself and how I look, I no longer feel racism is a problem. Yes, maybe at work, you feel that you are paid less than your western counterpart or in Malaysia, to your Muslim counterpart. But in the end, is better privileges, better wage really that important? Maybe if we put down our need to compare, then the thought of racism will not occur.
I thrash the system in NZ quite often in my blog and probably everyone will think I am going to go on about racism in NZ. :) Actually, quite the opposite. My comments are racism occur everywhere in the world. Chinese and Indian in Malaysia also complain about racism. Honestly, I dont think it can be avoided anyway in the world. I mean yes, our Asian skin colour does seem to be a bit of a disadvantage in a western country but then that is what we need to deal with if we choose to migrate and live in a western country. I dont think its really worth fighting and lamenting over it. If you are not happy, then go back to your home country.
Like right now, I am not happy in NZ and praying and wishing the law in NZ will allow my son and I to return to Malaysia. I trash the law but I will not use racism as a reason of unhappiness. Racism is not part of the law, it is just how we feel about ourselves and look at other people's perception on ourself.
I grew up hating my Asian looks, always worshiping my western counterparts. But life changes, I grew up and now, I am proud of my Asian hair, eyes, nose, body and everything else. I will not swap anything of mine to look more western. Once I come to term with myself and how I look, I no longer feel racism is a problem. Yes, maybe at work, you feel that you are paid less than your western counterpart or in Malaysia, to your Muslim counterpart. But in the end, is better privileges, better wage really that important? Maybe if we put down our need to compare, then the thought of racism will not occur.
Monday, 16 April 2012
PM asked to Step Into Family Row.
I saw this in the news today and cannot refrain from commenting because the article this morning and the article now has changed! The title for this morning is PM asked to step into family row but now it's Jakarta Ambassador. And also this morning's article said that the mother has asked for $6Mil if they want her son back to NZ but now that has been omitted from the article. Looks like the article has been politically corrected for readers!
Here is the story and I would like to comment on certain parts: http://nz.news.yahoo.com/a/-/top-stories/13444303/pm-asked-to-step-into-family-row/
Firstly - HELD IN INDONESIA BY HIS MOTHER? Hey, the man is 26 years old. Yes is he 'handicapped' but he is not a 6 years old. And 4th paragraph done, Mr Donaldson ASKED to go to Surabaya to be with his mother. He has been living in NZ since the separation at the age of 6 till at the age of 18 (where child custody ends as he is now a grown up), where he then asked to move to Surabaya to live with his mother. So if this man is able to voice and say that he wants to be with his mother at the age of 18, if he really wants to come back for treatment in NZ, he would be able to voice it too. He might have dual citizenship or whatever, but he is a grown 26 years old man. He is not mentally handicapped. Is this fight triggered by Mr Donaldson himself or his Kiwi family because they think NZ is a better place?
Mr Donaldson has lived without his biological mother for 12 years and maybe he knows his health has no cure but he misses his mother. Yes, maybe the situation in Indonesia does not help his physical state/health but maybe just maybe this is what he wants. He wants to be with his mother and that is all he wants. Sometimes home is not where you get the best treatment, home is where you feel loved and comfortable.
Here is the story and I would like to comment on certain parts: http://nz.news.yahoo.com/a/-/top-stories/13444303/pm-asked-to-step-into-family-row/
New Zealand's ambassador in Jakarta is helping the family of a disabled man who is being held in Indonesia by his mother, Prime Minister John Key says.
Simon Donaldson, 26, is an Indonesian-born New Zealand citizen suffering from leukodystrophy which causes deteriorating motor skills and bouts of amnesia.
His Whanganui-born father, David Donaldson, and his Indonesian mother, Yuhanie Marisa Latina, separated 20 years ago.
Despite his father being granted sold custody of the couple's children, Mr Donaldson has lived with his mother in the Indonesian city of Surabaya for the last eight years after he asked to be with her.
Mr Donaldson's father and siblings say his condition has deteriorated and he has a poor quality of life, but his mother is refusing to release him and keeps him chained up, the New Zealand Herald reported.
Mr Key is visiting Indonesia and the family asked him to help them.
"He is technically and legally able to come back to New Zealand and get medical support," Mr Key told reporters in Jakarta on Tuesday.
"We are working on the issue but it's a very complex case."
Mr Key says ambassador David Taylor raised Mr Donaldson's situation with Indonesian government ministers on Sunday.
"I can't go into all the details for privacy reasons except it's fair to say that if he was to go to New Zealand we're very confident he would get a high level of medical support," Mr Key said.
"Whether he's getting that in Indonesia is a very different issue."
Mr Key says he's seen the New Zealand Herald report but not the photograph of Mr Donaldson chained to a bed.
"We're actively working with the Indonesian government ... but there are complex legal matters, New Zealand can't just walk in for someone who has dual citizenship," he said.
Firstly - HELD IN INDONESIA BY HIS MOTHER? Hey, the man is 26 years old. Yes is he 'handicapped' but he is not a 6 years old. And 4th paragraph done, Mr Donaldson ASKED to go to Surabaya to be with his mother. He has been living in NZ since the separation at the age of 6 till at the age of 18 (where child custody ends as he is now a grown up), where he then asked to move to Surabaya to live with his mother. So if this man is able to voice and say that he wants to be with his mother at the age of 18, if he really wants to come back for treatment in NZ, he would be able to voice it too. He might have dual citizenship or whatever, but he is a grown 26 years old man. He is not mentally handicapped. Is this fight triggered by Mr Donaldson himself or his Kiwi family because they think NZ is a better place?
Mr Donaldson has lived without his biological mother for 12 years and maybe he knows his health has no cure but he misses his mother. Yes, maybe the situation in Indonesia does not help his physical state/health but maybe just maybe this is what he wants. He wants to be with his mother and that is all he wants. Sometimes home is not where you get the best treatment, home is where you feel loved and comfortable.
Sunday, 15 April 2012
Statistics
A friend told me that in the UK, it is very much a mother's right's country. The country still believes a Mother is a better carer for a child. I just wished I live in the UK at the moment.
Anyway, this spurred me to do some research on the correlation between divorces and suicide rate and other statistic. And now, I am sure NZ is living a 'If I pretend I dont see it, I can pretend it's not happening'.
NZ Rank NO.1 for suicide rate between 15-24 years old. Ha, why is that not surprising for a country where they treat their children like commodity rather than little human beings with feelings?
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Then here is the divorce rate. Hmm.. UK rank higher than NZ for divorces per capita but hey, UK is not even in the list for suicide rate! Let's see, divorce happen, yeah, shit happens, but having a good matriarchal nurturer helps reduce the effect of that.
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And of course a good law that values family is also important. Here is the Rate of Divorce - divorce / 100 marriages and NZ has 47.9 divorces/100 marriages. Wow! That is like every 1 in 2 marriages hit the rock. That is hardly any surprise. With the law to protect mostly the Man i.e A Trust Fund and also full excess to the kids, why would anyone want to make a marriage work?
Anyway, this spurred me to do some research on the correlation between divorces and suicide rate and other statistic. And now, I am sure NZ is living a 'If I pretend I dont see it, I can pretend it's not happening'.
NZ Rank NO.1 for suicide rate between 15-24 years old. Ha, why is that not surprising for a country where they treat their children like commodity rather than little human beings with feelings?
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| Rank | Countries  | Amount  | |
|---|---|---|---|
| # 1 |  New Zealand: | 26.7 per 100,000 people | |
| # 2 |  Finland: | 22.8 per 100,000 people | |
| # 3 |  Switzerland: | 17.9 per 100,000 people | |
| = 4 |  Austria: | 15 per 100,000 people | |
| = 4 |  Canada: | 15 per 100,000 people | |
| # 6 |  Australia: | 14.6 per 100,000 people | |
| # 7 |  United States: | 13.7 per 100,000 people | |
| # 8 |  Belgium: | 10.7 per 100,000 people | |
| # 9 |  France: | 10.3 per 100,000 people | |
| # 10 |  Sweden: | 9.4 per 100,000 people | |
| # 11 |  Denmark: | 9.3 per 100,000 people | |
| # 12 |  Ireland: | 8.8 per 100,000 people | |
| # 13 |  Japan: | 8.6 per 100,000 people | |
| # 14 |  Netherlands: | 6.8 per 100,000 people | |
| # 15 |  United Kingdom: | 6.7 per 100,000 people | |
| # 16 |  Germany: | 4.7 per 100,000 people | |
| # 17 |  Italy: | 4.3 per 100,000 people |
Then here is the divorce rate. Hmm.. UK rank higher than NZ for divorces per capita but hey, UK is not even in the list for suicide rate! Let's see, divorce happen, yeah, shit happens, but having a good matriarchal nurturer helps reduce the effect of that.
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| Rank | Countries | Amount | |
|---|---|---|---|
| # 1 | United States: | 4.95 per 1,000 people | |
| # 2 |  Puerto Rico: | 4.47 per 1,000 people | |
| # 3 |  Russia: | 3.36 per 1,000 people | |
| # 4 | United Kingdom: | 3.08 per 1,000 people | |
| # 5 | Denmark: | 2.81 per 1,000 people | |
| # 6 | New Zealand: | 2.63 per 1,000 people | |
| # 7 | Australia: | 2.52 per 1,000 people | |
| # 8 | Canada: | 2.46 per 1,000 people | |
| # 9 | Finland: | 1.85 per 1,000 people | |
| # 10 |  Barbados: | 1.21 per 1,000 people | |
| # 11 |  Guadeloupe: | 1.18 per 1,000 people | |
| # 12 |  Qatar: | 0.97 per 1,000 people | |
| # 13 |  Portugal: | 0.88 per 1,000 people | |
| # 14 |  Albania: | 0.83 per 1,000 people | |
| # 15 |  Tunisia: | 0.82 per 1,000 people | |
| # 16 |  Singapore: | 0.8 per 1,000 people | |
| # 17 |  China: | 0.79 per 1,000 people | |
| # 18 |  Greece: | 0.76 per 1,000 people | |
| # 19 |  Brunei: | 0.72 per 1,000 people | |
| # 20 |  Panama: | 0.68 per 1,000 people | |
| # 21 |  Syria: | 0.65 per 1,000 people | |
| # 22 |  Thailand: | 0.58 per 1,000 people | |
| # 23 |  Mauritius: | 0.47 per 1,000 people | |
| # 24 |  Ecuador: | 0.42 per 1,000 people | |
| # 25 |  El Salvador: | 0.41 per 1,000 people | |
| # 26 |  Cyprus: | 0.39 per 1,000 people | |
| = 27 |  Jamaica: | 0.38 per 1,000 people | |
| = 27 |  Chile: | 0.38 per 1,000 people | |
| = 29 |  Mongolia: | 0.37 per 1,000 people | |
| = 29 |  Turkey: | 0.37 per 1,000 people | |
| # 31 |  Mexico: | 0.33 per 1,000 people | |
| # 32 | Italy: | 0.27 per 1,000 people | |
| # 33 |  Brazil: | 0.26 per 1,000 people | |
| # 34 |  Sri Lanka: | 0.15 per 1,000 people | |
| Weighted average: | 1.3 per 1,000 people |
And of course a good law that values family is also important. Here is the Rate of Divorce - divorce / 100 marriages and NZ has 47.9 divorces/100 marriages. Wow! That is like every 1 in 2 marriages hit the rock. That is hardly any surprise. With the law to protect mostly the Man i.e A Trust Fund and also full excess to the kids, why would anyone want to make a marriage work?
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Of course, I cannot refrain from looking at total crime victims and aha, my suspicion is right. NZ rank 2nd! Showing latest available data.
DEFINITION: People victimized by crime (as a % of the total population). Data refer to people victimized by one or more of 11 crimes recorded in the survey: robbery, burglary, attempted burglary, car theft, car vandalism, bicycle theft, sexual assault, theft from car, theft of personal property, assault and threats. Crime statistics are often better indicators of prevalence of law enforcement and willingness to report crime, than actual prevalence.
SOURCE: UNICRI (United Nations Interregional Crime and Justice Research Institute). 2002. Correspondence on data on crime victims. March. Turin
Do we need more correlation to accept that the family law is very flawed?
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