Dedicated to my Qong Qong

Tomorrow, 16 October marks the 15th anniversary of my beloved Qong Qong's death.  And also it is now 2 years since I get to talk to you and bring you roses in the columbarium.  It wasnt a choice for me at all with the way of the world, the way the system works.  I know deep inside you and I are still connected and you know my pain, you know I cannot leave my young son, your young great grandson alone in NZ.  It wasnt the way you brought me up to be a responsible parent to abandon a child for my own sake.  However, I do miss just standing in front of your columbarium talking to you because somehow I still feel that you can hear me.  I know I also look around at the 'others' and have happy thoughts of you being friends with some of them especially that little girl who died at such a young age.  Whilst I can no longer feel and have the special unconditional love physically from you, I still believe, you are watching over me somewhere and having fun with others while waiting for the day we could be reunited.  It could happen sooner if the end of the world is really happening on the 12/12/12.  

I still miss you everyday and with my situation now, I really wished that you could be here for me.  You have been the only person who would stand up for me regardless of anything.  I know you would bend over backwards, not worried of what the world thinks to get me and your great grandson out of this predicament. Because of you, I have faith in every single person I meet but the last 2 years, I have only been disappointed over and over again by people.  

When things get really tough, I recall your simplicity in life and that restore my faith in the world, temporarily. 

Dearest Qong Qong, till we meet again, please continue to watch over me and your great grandson.  He exhibits quite a few of your characteristic, even the little health issues you had.  And help me impart your teachings on him, the simplicity and sincerity and trust.  Something that is so significantly missing in the world now...

Love you forever.

What a Double Standard!

I came across this article in the New Zealand Herald and what a load of double standard the Family Law in NZ practices.  Even the title of the article is SO irrelevant.  This is the article and these are my points :
http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10837454

1)      In this article Joanne Ingham practically kidnapped the children from Malaysia but she is not even being put on trial.  But if the opposite happen, says a foreign mother takes her child home to her birth country not return to NZ, they will be put on trial for child abduction.  There will be a major outcry all over the media over that foreign mother's action.  But when their own citizen does it, its OK.   

2)      Joanne Ingham changes her contact details and address rendering Hanafi Salleh zero contact with his children. With his fisherman income, there is no way, he has the financial means to track her down and probably took him 7 years to save for a ticket to fly to NZ.  That is such extreme.  On the contrary, if a foreign mother changes her contact details etc even within NZ, she will risk losing her child.  Sick double standard system!!!

3)      Hanafi Salleh is a Malaysian so he doesn’t even have any rights to file for a parental order in New Zealand.  Similarly, any foreign mother's who is not a Citizen in NZ, their parents are not Kiwis so they have no rights in New Zealand.  But the grandparents who are Kiwis are so much rights to the extent of superceeding a mother's rights!

4)      The article says that the two boys are living together but not with their mother, Joanne Ingham! How could this be fair for the two boys to be taken away from their birth country, back to NZ but not live with their mother.  So the boys are growing without the presence of a mother or a father.   

5) The New Zealand’s Family Court Care of Children Act emphasised on equal rights.  In Joanne and Hanafi Salleh’s case, where is the equal right for Hanifi Salleh?  Where is the equal rights for the foreign parent who is not a Kiwi?

6) A protective mother in New Zealand can be painted as an emotional protective mother and it is considered bad but a mother like Joanne Ingham with strings of convictions for theft is still fit to be a mother!  Gosh, I rest my case with the type of children that will be produced as a result of the Family Court.  And my son will be one of the victim!