Nayati Moodliar

I was in tears when I hear the father's plea to the kidnappers.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFENLftMnLU 


His photos is all over the news and every social media so it is widespread.  My comments today is to the kidnappers.  What are your intentions?  


1) If it is money, please contact the parents and get your fair share but leave a young boy out of this.
2)  If it is for some sort of personal vendetta, please dont be as low as this to hurt a young boy.  Go face to face with the parents to sort the personal vendetta.  
3) If it was a mistaken identity, then remember 1-1 = 0.  Cut  short your mistake and leave the boy somewhere perhaps in the shopping mall like Mid Valley or KLCC where there is so many people and the boy can make his own way back.  Remember, 1-1=0 and the parents said that they will not press charges.  
4) If you are scared because it is now a widespread news, then face up to it.  You know, when you face up to it, you will find that your sentence will be less and people will be more forgiving.
5) If you have done the unthinkable (which I cannot even write it out because it is heart wrenching), please dont just run away.  Everyone needs closure including you. Do the right thing for your soul.  

Please remember, you are also someone child.  Would you like your parents to worry about you this way?  And one day, you will also be a parent.  Do you want to be in this position because you have make a mistake and karma bites back?  


Please whatever are your intentions, sort it out but leave the child out of this.  


Sending my strength to you kidnappers to do the right thing and sending my strength to Nayati to stay strong...

Note to kidnappers:  If you are scared, or dont want to be detected, remember our first and foremost interest is Nayati.  Feel free to go to an internet cafe and write a comment on this blog.  You will not and cant be traced.  I will then contact his parents myself.  Remember, I am only interested to help this boy return to his parents, and not you.

Racism

I saw this article in the news today.  Foreign Nurses Report Racism in NZ - http://nz.news.yahoo.com/a/-/mp/13489125/foreign-nurses-report-racism-in-nz/


I thrash the system in NZ quite often in my blog and probably everyone will think I am going to go on about racism in NZ.  :)  Actually, quite the opposite.  My comments are racism occur everywhere in the world.  Chinese and Indian in Malaysia also complain about racism.  Honestly, I dont think it can be avoided anyway in the world.  I mean yes, our Asian skin colour does seem to be a bit of a disadvantage in a western country but then that is what we need to deal with if we choose to migrate and live in a western country.  I dont think its really worth fighting and lamenting over it.  If you are not happy, then go back to your home country.  


Like right now, I am not happy in NZ and praying and wishing the law in NZ will allow my son and I to return to Malaysia.  I trash the law but I will not use racism as a reason of unhappiness.   Racism is not part of the law, it is just how we feel about ourselves and look at other people's perception on ourself.


I grew up hating my Asian looks, always worshiping my western counterparts.  But life changes, I grew up and now, I am proud of my Asian hair, eyes, nose, body and everything else.  I will not swap anything of mine to look more western.  Once I come to term with myself and how I look, I no longer feel racism is a problem.  Yes, maybe at work, you feel that you are paid less than your western counterpart or in Malaysia, to your Muslim counterpart.  But in the end, is better privileges, better wage really that important?  Maybe if we put down our need to compare, then the thought of racism will not occur.  

PM asked to Step Into Family Row.

I saw this in the news today and cannot refrain from commenting because the article this morning and the article now has changed!  The title for this morning is PM asked to step into family row but now it's Jakarta Ambassador.  And also this morning's article said that the mother has asked for $6Mil if they want her son back to NZ but now that has been omitted from the article.  Looks like the article has been politically corrected for readers!

Here is the story and I would like to comment on certain parts: http://nz.news.yahoo.com/a/-/top-stories/13444303/pm-asked-to-step-into-family-row/

New Zealand's ambassador in Jakarta is helping the family of a disabled man who is being held in Indonesia by his mother, Prime Minister John Key says.

Simon Donaldson, 26, is an Indonesian-born New Zealand citizen suffering from leukodystrophy which causes deteriorating motor skills and bouts of amnesia.

His Whanganui-born father, David Donaldson, and his Indonesian mother, Yuhanie Marisa Latina, separated 20 years ago.

Despite his father being granted sold custody of the couple's children, Mr Donaldson has lived with his mother in the Indonesian city of Surabaya for the last eight years after he asked to be with her.

Mr Donaldson's father and siblings say his condition has deteriorated and he has a poor quality of life, but his mother is refusing to release him and keeps him chained up, the New Zealand Herald reported.

Mr Key is visiting Indonesia and the family asked him to help them.

"He is technically and legally able to come back to New Zealand and get medical support," Mr Key told reporters in Jakarta on Tuesday.

"We are working on the issue but it's a very complex case."

Mr Key says ambassador David Taylor raised Mr Donaldson's situation with Indonesian government ministers on Sunday.

"I can't go into all the details for privacy reasons except it's fair to say that if he was to go to New Zealand we're very confident he would get a high level of medical support," Mr Key said.

"Whether he's getting that in Indonesia is a very different issue."

Mr Key says he's seen the New Zealand Herald report but not the photograph of Mr Donaldson chained to a bed.

"We're actively working with the Indonesian government ... but there are complex legal matters, New Zealand can't just walk in for someone who has dual citizenship," he said.

Firstly - HELD IN INDONESIA BY HIS MOTHER?  Hey, the man is 26 years old.  Yes is he 'handicapped' but he is not a 6 years old.  And 4th paragraph done, Mr Donaldson ASKED to go to Surabaya to be with his mother.  He has been living in NZ since the separation at the age of 6 till at the age of 18 (where child custody ends as he is now a grown up), where he then asked to move to Surabaya to live with his mother.  So if this man is able to voice and say that he wants to be with his mother at the age of 18, if he really wants to come back for treatment in NZ, he would be able to voice it too.  He might have dual citizenship or whatever, but he is a grown 26 years old man.  He is not mentally handicapped.  Is this fight triggered by Mr Donaldson himself or his Kiwi family because they think NZ is a better place?


Mr Donaldson has lived without his biological mother for 12 years and maybe he knows his health has no cure but he misses his mother.  Yes, maybe the situation in Indonesia does not help his physical state/health but maybe just maybe this is what he wants.  He wants to be with his mother and that is all he wants.  Sometimes home is not where you get the best treatment, home is where you feel loved and comfortable.  

Statistics

A friend told me that in the UK, it is very much a mother's right's country.  The country still believes a Mother is a better carer for a child.  I just wished I live in the UK at the moment.  


Anyway, this spurred me to do some research on the correlation between divorces and suicide rate and other statistic.  And now, I am sure NZ is living a 'If I pretend I dont see it, I can pretend it's not happening'.  


NZ Rank NO.1 for suicide rate between 15-24 years old.  Ha, why is that not surprising for a country where they treat their children like commodity rather than little human beings with feelings?  


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Rank	Countries	Amount
# 1	New Zealand:	26.7 per 100,000 people
# 2	Finland:	22.8 per 100,000 people
# 3	Switzerland:	17.9 per 100,000 people
= 4	Austria:	15 per 100,000 people
= 4	Canada:	15 per 100,000 people
# 6	Australia:	14.6 per 100,000 people
# 7	United States:	13.7 per 100,000 people
# 8	Belgium:	10.7 per 100,000 people
# 9	France:	10.3 per 100,000 people
# 10	Sweden:	9.4 per 100,000 people
# 11	Denmark:	9.3 per 100,000 people
# 12	Ireland:	8.8 per 100,000 people
# 13	Japan:	8.6 per 100,000 people
# 14	Netherlands:	6.8 per 100,000 people
# 15	United Kingdom:	6.7 per 100,000 people
# 16	Germany:	4.7 per 100,000 people
# 17	Italy:	4.3 per 100,000 people

Then here is the divorce rate.  Hmm.. UK rank higher than NZ for divorces per capita but hey, UK is not even in the list for suicide rate!  Let's see, divorce happen, yeah, shit happens, but having a good matriarchal nurturer helps reduce the effect of that.  




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Rank	Countries	Amount
# 1	United States:	4.95 per 1,000 people
# 2	Puerto Rico:	4.47 per 1,000 people
# 3	Russia:	3.36 per 1,000 people
# 4	United Kingdom:	3.08 per 1,000 people
# 5	Denmark:	2.81 per 1,000 people
# 6	New Zealand:	2.63 per 1,000 people
# 7	Australia:	2.52 per 1,000 people
# 8	Canada:	2.46 per 1,000 people
# 9	Finland:	1.85 per 1,000 people
# 10	Barbados:	1.21 per 1,000 people
# 11	Guadeloupe:	1.18 per 1,000 people
# 12	Qatar:	0.97 per 1,000 people
# 13	Portugal:	0.88 per 1,000 people
# 14	Albania:	0.83 per 1,000 people
# 15	Tunisia:	0.82 per 1,000 people
# 16	Singapore:	0.8 per 1,000 people
# 17	China:	0.79 per 1,000 people
# 18	Greece:	0.76 per 1,000 people
# 19	Brunei:	0.72 per 1,000 people
# 20	Panama:	0.68 per 1,000 people
# 21	Syria:	0.65 per 1,000 people
# 22	Thailand:	0.58 per 1,000 people
# 23	Mauritius:	0.47 per 1,000 people
# 24	Ecuador:	0.42 per 1,000 people
# 25	El Salvador:	0.41 per 1,000 people
# 26	Cyprus:	0.39 per 1,000 people
= 27	Jamaica:	0.38 per 1,000 people
= 27	Chile:	0.38 per 1,000 people
= 29	Mongolia:	0.37 per 1,000 people
= 29	Turkey:	0.37 per 1,000 people
# 31	Mexico:	0.33 per 1,000 people
# 32	Italy:	0.27 per 1,000 people
# 33	Brazil:	0.26 per 1,000 people
# 34	Sri Lanka:	0.15 per 1,000 people
	Weighted average:	1.3 per 1,000 people

And of course a good law that values family is also important.  Here is the Rate of Divorce - divorce / 100 marriages and NZ has 47.9 divorces/100 marriages.  Wow! That is like every 1 in 2 marriages hit the rock.  That is hardly any surprise.  With the law to protect mostly the Man i.e A Trust Fund and also full excess to the kids, why would anyone want to make a marriage work?

Showing latest available data. Rank   Countries   Amount   # 1     Belgium: 59.8 divorces per 100 marriag  # 2     Sweden: 53.9 divorces per 100 marriag  # 3     Czech Republic: 53.7 divorces per 100 marriag  # 4     Finland: 53.2 divorces per 100 marriag  # 5     Hungary: 49.9 divorces per 100 marriag  # 6     Austria: 49.8 divorces per 100 marriag  # 7     Luxembourg: 48 divorces per 100 marriag  # 8     New Zealand: 47.1 divorces per 100 marriag  # 9     Australia: 46 divorces per 100 marriag  # 10     Norway: 39.7 divorces per 100 marriag  # 11     Netherlands: 39.3 divorces per 100 marriag  # 12     Denmark: 37.5 divorces per 100 marriag  # 13     Slovakia: 35.8 divorces per 100 marriag  # 14     Japan: 33.1 divorces per 100 marriag  # 15     Iceland: 30.7 divorces per 100 marriag  # 16     Portugal: 30 divorces per 100 marriag  # 17     Switzerland: 26.4 divorces per 100 marriag  # 18     Poland: 20.3 divorces per 100 marriag  # 19     Greece: 15.4 divorces per 100 marriag  # 20     Mexico: 7.4 divorces per 100 marriag  Weighted average: 38.9 divorces per 100 marriag   Of course, I cannot refrain from looking at total crime victims and aha, my suspicion is right.  NZ rank 2nd!    Showing latest available data. Rank   Countries   Amount   # 1     Australia: 30.1%  # 2     New Zealand: 29.4%  # 3     United Kingdom: 26.4%  # 4     Netherlands: 25.2%  # 5     Sweden: 24.7%  # 6     Italy: 24.6%  # 7     Canada: 23.8%  # 8     Saint Kitts and Nevis: 23.2%  # 9     Malta: 23.1%  # 10     Denmark: 23%  # 11     Poland: 22.7%  = 12     Belgium: 21.4%  = 12     France: 21.4%  # 14     Slovenia: 21.2%  # 15     United States: 21.1%  # 16     Finland: 19.1%  # 17     Austria: 18.8%  # 18     Switzerland: 18.2%  # 19     Portugal: 15.5%  # 20     Japan: 15.2%  Weighted average: 22.4%   DEFINITION: People victimized by crime (as a % of the total population). Data refer to people victimized by one or more of 11 crimes recorded in the survey: robbery, burglary, attempted burglary, car theft, car vandalism, bicycle theft, sexual assault, theft from car, theft of personal property, assault and threats. Crime statistics are often better indicators of prevalence of law enforcement and willingness to report crime, than actual prevalence. SOURCE: UNICRI (United Nations Interregional Crime and Justice Research Institute). 2002. Correspondence on data on crime victims. March. Turin Do we need more correlation to accept that the family law is very flawed?