Finally I am not Alone in my Thinking!

I found this on a medical website:

Parental conflict and children's behavioral and social adjustment were measured at two periods in 100 families entrenched in custody and visitation disputes. More frequent access to both parents was associated with more emotional and behavioral problems in the children; different effects were noted for boys and girls.

PMID

 2817096 [PubMed - indexed for MEDLINE]

Johnston JR, et al.

Journal

Am J Orthopsychiatry. 1989 Oct;59(4):576-92.

Affiliation

Center for the Family in Transition, Corte Madera, Calif.

And this from a mental health worker website.  Link to article: http://www.theledger.com/article/20120128/NEWS/120129672?p=3&tc=pg

The simple rules for starters. First, drop the gloves, or in this case STOP the fighting. (I said simple, not easy.) No one gains grounds by this kind of battle. Second — provide what's needed, not what's mandated by law. The legal requirement, for example, might be that the child or children have a place of residence. What often happens is they get bounced from one residence to the other. Realizing that what their children needed was stability and consistency, one divorced couple chose to alternate their residence, leaving the children permanently in their original home. Third — support the other parent. This is a toughy. You probably couldn't do it before the divorce — how could you do it after? This takes considerable empathy, realizing that the parent with primary residence more than likely feels overwhelmed and the other parent feels excluded and discarded. Both need support.

[ Anthony Conti is a licensed mental health counselor in Lakeland. ]

And this from a lawyer website.  Link to article: http://www.rosen.com/childcustody/carticles/children-and-divorce/

Generally speaking, preschoolers do best with shorter, more frequent contact, often not involving overnights.

I have 3 articles from 3 different profession - lawyer, medical professional and a mental health worker stating what I believe in :  1) Overnight is disruptive at my child's age and 2) The so-called shuttling back and forth between parents will only result in emotional and behavioral problem in the child.  

This is so consistent with my previous blog http://www.paulinesharingthoughts.blogspot.co.nz/2012/01/psychologist-psychology-law-versus.html

I did not even read the first medical article when I wrote my blog!  So why are people and the LAW still so ignorant and want to follow the so-called WRONG LAW?  Is it because of inertia and not wanting to accept any changes because it involves too much hassle?  Hassle or not, it is the lifetime of my child that these people are affecting...